Comments on: Our Lady of Sorrows http://aurumgirl.wordpress.com/2008/09/20/our-lady-of-sorrows/ animal, vegetable, mineral, and imponderable Tue, 21 Oct 2008 13:07:22 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: aurumgirl http://aurumgirl.wordpress.com/2008/09/20/our-lady-of-sorrows/#comment-51 aurumgirl Tue, 21 Oct 2008 13:00:04 +0000 http://aurumgirl.wordpress.com/?p=229#comment-51 Thank you, Mike. It's just over a month later and I think of her almost every moment I'm alone or not thinking about any particular thing. The dreams have been strange in that I've been expecting so many of them to be about her, but they haven't been. It's amazing to me, though, how her death has caused such profound change in my family's dynamic, I'm re-acquainting myself with my father and my brother in a way that never would have been possible before. Also, over the last month of public mourning--funeral, reception, memorials--so many people I haven't seen in decades made contact with us again. Many of my childhood friends who've grown up and raised families of their own, all remembering my mother for the kind and openly generous person she was with them. I'd forgotten those times and her passing brought all of that back. Another one of my mother's blessings. I miss her like mad, and wish she would have been able to see all this happen when she was here. Thank you, Mike. It’s just over a month later and I think of her almost every moment I’m alone or not thinking about any particular thing. The dreams have been strange in that I’ve been expecting so many of them to be about her, but they haven’t been.

It’s amazing to me, though, how her death has caused such profound change in my family’s dynamic, I’m re-acquainting myself with my father and my brother in a way that never would have been possible before. Also, over the last month of public mourning–funeral, reception, memorials–so many people I haven’t seen in decades made contact with us again. Many of my childhood friends who’ve grown up and raised families of their own, all remembering my mother for the kind and openly generous person she was with them. I’d forgotten those times and her passing brought all of that back. Another one of my mother’s blessings.

I miss her like mad, and wish she would have been able to see all this happen when she was here.

]]> By: Mike http://aurumgirl.wordpress.com/2008/09/20/our-lady-of-sorrows/#comment-49 Mike Tue, 21 Oct 2008 02:43:03 +0000 http://aurumgirl.wordpress.com/?p=229#comment-49 I lost my mother about 10 years ago but somehow time hasn't moved on from that time. I still think here almost every day. It was the hardest thing I ever went through. We were given 3 months from the diagnosis of colon cancer, and it was almost to the day. It leaves this strange vacuum in your life and for a few months you will have strange dreams. It is natural, so dont think you are losing your mind. It is a way of coping with the loss. Let me know how it goes and I wish you strength and peace. I lost my mother about 10 years ago but somehow time hasn’t moved on from that time. I still think here almost every day. It was the hardest thing I ever went through. We were given 3 months from the diagnosis of colon cancer, and it was almost to the day.
It leaves this strange vacuum in your life and for a few months you will have strange dreams. It is natural, so dont think you are losing your mind. It is a way of coping with the loss. Let me know how it goes and I wish you strength and peace.

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